You weigh that much?? I feel so much better about myself now if you weigh so much!
To a person who has lost over 50 pounds and maintained that loss for about a year, I don't think I weigh "too much", but I found myself defending my weight.
Well, I lift weights three times a week, too so I'm not just "skinny."
I workout six days a week and eat pretty clean so I think that's healthy.
I wear the smallest size jeans they sell in women's sizing!
I've lost over 50 pounds, what's wrong with what I weigh?
Am I supposed to weigh less??
But then I just stopped. Why do I need to defend my weight? My weight is in the healthy range, and I know there are plenty of people out there who say I'm too thin, so why was she shocked at my weight??
I tried talking with her about why she thought I weighed so much, and what I thought it meant to be healthy, but her only answer was that we should aim to weigh around 100 pounds. Women are "supposed to be" super skinny. Seriously.
I think some people just put too much pressure on that number of the scale. They let that number define them. I know I struggle with it when my weight fluctuates, but after a year of maintenance, I'm finally realizing that my weight is going to fluctuate occasionally. And it usually has nothing to do with how I'm eating or actual weight gain. It's hormones, water weight, etc. It always levels back out at my "normal" weight.
Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves, or others, to weigh a certain amount? Why does that matter so much? And why would someone who is 5'8 want to weigh 103 pounds? That isn't even a healthy weight for my 5'4 frame!
I'm trying not to put so much pressure on myself for what the scale says. I know that I'm healthy. I run every day (because I'm doing the Runner's World Holiday Streak!). I eat healthy and stay away from junk most of the time, but also allow treats. Although I do weigh myself often, I try not to let that number define me. I go by how my jeans fit. And honestly, once you have to start using a belt on your size 00 jeans and you're buying your running clothes in the girls' department not women's, you don't think you need to lose anymore weight! You actually start to think the opposite.
Now, this "friend" hasn't talked to me since that dinner date. Apparently I did my job of making her feel better about herself and I was promptly dumped. Which is okay, because I don't need people making me feel bad about myself just to make themselves feel better. Friendships shouldn't be based on that.
So, my question is, how do you respond to those who want to bring you down because of your weight? Or something similar? Why aren't we lifting each other up rather than tearing each other down when we know how hard we can be on ourselves when it comes to weight??
Until next time~